okay so for starters, i'm 16 and i have major major exams arnd october. I've been really close to his guy (lets call him X) and I'm really really confused. I'm not sureif my post is suitable for datingish, but still i really really need help!
I've been reading datingish for a really long time now, and I realised that everyone all over the world has their own relationship issues, so I hope everyone can give opinions and lead me in the direction i should be going :)
X and I have been talking on the phone everynight and texting each other every single day ever since february. Initially we were just great friends as he was attached but having problems with his then girlfriend, K. We would talk at night, but at around 11 plus or so he would hang up and say he'd call me back, as K requested him to call her everynight. After that, he'd call me back and we'd talk for quite some time. We always had alot to talk about (and we still do) its like we clicked instantaneously.
Soon, X and K's squabbles increased drastically, with X always complaining to me about K. He always initiated a break up, but she'd just keep begging and begging him and rope all her friends to mass text and call him, begging him to give her yet another chance. So this on-off relationship between them lasted for the next 2 months, until one day he had enough and refused to have any communication with her. She would blog about their relationship on her blog, and always blogged in a way that people who did not know anything about their relationship would all take pity on her and thought of X as a jerk.
Even after they broke up, she would still call him every night (until now it still happens) just to say good night to him and maybe even flaunt about which guys flirted with her or asked her out. I wouldn't know of course, I'm not in their conversation.
X and I's friendship progressed, and around March (he was still with K) he told me he really loved me. and ever since then we've acted like a couple in our calls and texts. Idk how it happened, it just did. However, X is a player. He always flirts with the girls in our school. When he sees me, he always looks away, as though we didn't know each other. The irony of it all, is that at night, he would ask me why I was so cold to him in school. Maybe I just have that naturally indifferent look on my face all the time, i wouldn't know, but what I do know, is that he always smiles at the other girls when he talks to them/walks past them.
We have many friends in common, so we'd all always go out for movies and study together. Whenever X and I accidentally brush hands, we'd always look at each other really intensely it scares me somehow. So why is it that we don't act like we know each other in real life, but on the rare occasion that we do look at each other, it feels kinda special?
Not many people know about our friendship, except my best friend, G. Everyone else just thinks that we're just good friends who don't talk every night, friends who don't sound like theyre together whenever they text. Whenever other guys talk to me and stuff, he would tell me that he's jealous of them, and inside my heart I know that I'm jealous when other girls flirt with him and all.
A month ago, he told me he really wanted to be with me, but there's the major exams coming out and he doesn't want this to affect him. But what's the difference between us being officially tgther and unofficially? This really confuses me. So what should I do now? Just see how things go? Or take the initiative to ask him where we are now, friends or more than that? Or seriously, am I just thinking too much?
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